Having a doormat is good… Being one????
NOT SO GOOD!!!!
What you allow will continue…
If you think about it, what in the world could possibly be more motivational and empowering than knowing that we are always in complete control of what we allow into our lives…
I will take that a step further…
I believe that if we remember this very powerful saying and live the truth in these words on a daily basis, our lives and our world would become more positive in an instant.
But let’s be real.
Lots of people know that it is true, but they keep allowing the same nonsense to flow into their lives anyway. Predictably, what will continue to faithfully show up in their lives is more of the garbage that they are trying to avoid.
Maybe you are one of those people.
I know that I used to be. Actually, in many areas of my life, I still am that person.
I want this piece to serve as your wake-up call..
WAIT….
Scratch that, OUR wake-up call.
We are in this together.
Effective immediately, it is time for you, me, and anyone who is listening to these words to become more mindful of what we allow into our lives...
WE TEACH OTHER’S HOW TO TREAT US…
What are you allowing to continue in your life?
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Are you allowing your significant other to treat you like a second-class citizen in your own home?
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Is one of your “friends”…(I’m using that term loosely)… constantly taking advantage of your kindness and generosity?
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Do you keep mentally divorcing your wife/husband only to moments later want to stay married because he or she says that’s what they want and again at that given point till the next fight….
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Do you have a co-worker or boss who consistently treats you in a condescending manner?
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Are you slowly destroying your health through unhealthy habits?
To cut straight to it, is there anyone in your life “(YES, INCLUDING YOU)” who is consistently treating you like down graded trash???
If so, the bad news is that you are the one allowing it to continue.
Yes, you!!!!
The good news is that you can stop allowing this too happen, but only when you are ready too….
So, are you ready?
I know i am….
Are you with me in taking a stand to protect YOU from anymore mental and emotional torture?
Sounds pretty simple right?
WRONG!!!!!
Unfortunately it’s not that simple, yes you heard right…
What we are allowing, will continue!!!
If you jump straight into fixing the situation rather than yourself first…
Sorry to be blunt, but it is just not that simple…
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We either allow ourselves to have our kindness taken advantage of on a daily basis, or we DO NOT..
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We either allow ourselves to spend the rest of our lives in jobs that slowly destroy our souls, or we DO NOT..
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We either allow ourselves to stay in abusive and/or loveless relationships, or we DO NOT..
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We either believe in ourselves and our dreams, or we DO NOT..
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We either allow ourselves to abuse the only body that we will ever have, or we DO NOT..
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We either allow ourselves to believe our excuses about why we allow ourselves to be treated like dirt, or we DO NOT..
Just in case anyone is rolling their eyes right now, or muttering to him/herself , this lady just does not get it….
Let me be painfully clear about something.
Just because it is simple does not mean that it will be easy.
That is simply because making the world a more positive place is not easy..
Only the serious need to apply for that gig.
The decision to honor ourselves is a simple one. However, in order to make that decision a reality, it will require some very hard work.
It may very well be the hardest thing that we will ever do in our lives..
Mainly because doing so will mean that we will have to completely reject our excuses..
I personally know of a lot of people who have stayed in miserable, loveless, and even abusive relationships. Relationships that should have ended years ago, but they stayed in those relationships solely because of their kids.
Do not become another statistic my sweet…
Is that any reason to stay???
Do these kids NOT get even more messed up just by us as parents stay, using them as thee excuse, and my emphasis being “EXCUSE”….
This excuse deserves some serious rethinking.
Given the choice, is it not much better for kids to come from a broken home rather than live in one??
Spouses spending their days either giving each other the ice-cold silent treatment, screaming/cursing at each other, or sleeping in separate rooms.
In my opinion, kids are much more aware of these things than we give them credit for, and subjecting them to that kind of environment repeatedly cannot be the healthiest thing in the world.
In the end, we can dream up as many excuses as we want..
Worse of all we actually end up believing a few of those excuses too.
Unfortunately, there is NO EXCUSE in the world that can change the unshakable truthfulness of this…
“WHAT WE ALLOW IS WHAT WILL CONTINUE”
It may take a lot of work to cut out toxic people from our lives, it is even harder work making the conscious choice, honoring and loving ourselves unconditionally, but even if it is hard work, it cannot be any harder than allowing ourselves to be constantly treated like dirt, every other second, of each passing day… right?????
Don’t over-complicate this for another second.
Honoring yourself is simpler than you think.
If you are currently allowing yourself to experience a life that is less than what you know you deserve, it is worth it to ask yourself this very difficult, and non-sugarcoated, questions…
What will it take for me to no longer accept this pain or the scraps that life is offering me???
Do i not deserve better???
I have had to ask myself those very questions on many occasions, and having looked deep within, it woke me up from years (YES, very painful years) of making excuses instead of taking ownership over my life..
Blame becomes easy, but have you stopped to ask yourself…
WHO IS REALLY TO BLAME, him/her for the abuse, or YOU for allowing it to continue… Food for thought hmmmm..
How many more years are we willing to lose?
Years that we will never get back..
Mind you dealing with mindless drama, emotional abuse, disrespect are far worse on a constant basis….
Please believe that if you continue to allow yourself to be treated like dirt, you will eventually be introduced to the agonizing pain of never again…
This pain will change your life for the better, but it will hurt unlike any emotional pain that you have ever experienced in your life.
The good news is that once you experience this life altering pain, there is no excuse in the world that will stop you from doing the right thing.. MAKE SENSE???
The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. The gift of life is yours. It is an amazing journey, and you alone are responsible for the quality of it… You are the author of your story so make it a good one, make it a story no-one will want to put down…
But most importantly always let the core of your story revolve only around Allah…
Need only Allah..
Trust only Allah..
