CHANGE THE PLAYER,NOT THE GAME THEY SAY….
MY SENTIMENTS ON THAT???
IF THE PLAYER IS NOT WELL VERSED TO PLAY THE GAME, WHY ATTEMPT IT…
Take the risk, Yay… Nay….
MAYBE… MAYBE NOT!!!
WHAT DO YOU THINK????
I often wonder about change, it is quiet simple to ask someone to change, but change is more like an “I want to action” rather than “someone is telling me to change so i must order to self sort of act”
We will always expect the player to change, why not try changing strategy, by that i mean making a personal change that way the outcome of the game will not just be satisfying but gratifying too…
CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE…
Change begins with me…
In these circumstances, be an outside force who cannot and does not force change on anyone especially against their will. Be the common factor – the only person that can actually enforce any sort of change.
“The only change that is really going to dramatically affect your game is you”.
Any true sincere change comes from within and starts with me first…
THE REAL ACT OF DISCOVERY CONSISTS NOT IN FINDING NEW LANDS BUT IN SEEING WITH NEW EYES…
If you make no change, nothing will or can change.
How do we look at ‘the old lands with new eyes’?
Here are three ways:
1. Admit it:
Problems persist because we deny them.
And what makes a problem big is simply that it is yours.
If you found yourself in the hospital with an injury, would you walk around, pointing out the injuries of others in the emergency room? Or would you be making a beeline to the doctor’s office to find healing for your own pain?
We tend to have it all wrong when it comes to real life. Everyone has problems. No one is perfect. But we want to fix that person and their issues first before fixing and putting right our own.
Break the cycle..
Break the cycle..
Don’t underestimate the power of admitting any problem. Admit your problem, and then begin the journey to finding a solution.
2. Make the grass greener on your side..
WATERING YOUR OWN PATCH OF DRY LAND WILL HOLD MORE BENEFIT THAN PEAKING INTO SOMEONE ELSE’S PATCH….
You need to take responsibility. If a problem exists, say in a relationship, you are most likely part of the problem. Doesn’t really matter whose fault it was at the beginning. Seek to create solutions.
You make the grass greener on your side by taking the initiative. Make the first move…
You must also understand that change is a process, not an event…
“Little by little fills the pot.” Small changes – in our thoughts, behavior, words – indicate progress.
The entire situation might seem unresponsive at first, but consistent small steps will eventually bear fruit. Remember that the grass does not become green in one day. It has to be planted first. Then nurtured.
3.Distinguish between intentions and expectations:
Intentions come from the heart. You take responsibility for your own intentions.
Expectations on the other hand are placed on others. You can hope for something but it’s never guaranteed that you will have it.
Unfulfilled expectations often lead to stress, fear or disappointment while true intentions, the only thing you can really control – will increase your enthusiasm and joy of living.
Learn to sow good seeds. For example, you can decide, “I want to be perfect partner” instead of “My partner has to perfect him or herself for me.” Just as you are a work in progress, so too is the other party….
THE HEART OF ANY PLAYER SHOULD CHANGE BEFORE ATTEMPTING ANY GAME….
