Love. A word so often spoken, yet so rarely understood in its fullness. People search for it in faces, in places, in fleeting moments, but its essence remains deeper than the surface-level feelings we are taught to chase. For me, love is not just an emotion, it is a choice, an intention, and a reflection of the soul.
Love is the meeting point of two hearts that do not lose themselves, but rather expand into something greater together. It is not ownership, nor is it dependency. Real love does not ask for a cage, it asks for wings. It is the kind of force that allows you to hold someone close yet still want to see them fly free.
Is love meant to be selfless?
To an extent, yes. True love carries sacrifice within it, the ability to put another’s needs before your own without erasing yourself in the process. It is selfless enough to care, to nurture, to protect, yet wise enough to know that neglecting your own soul is not love but destruction. Love is not martyrdom, it is balance. It is giving without keeping score, but it is also respecting boundaries and protecting dignity.
At its core, love is truth. It is honesty when silence would be easier, patience when frustration tries to take over, and kindness when the world chooses cruelty. Love does not always feel like fireworks and grand gestures, it often whispers through consistency, through showing up, through the smallest acts of consideration.
To me, love is not about losing yourself in someone else, but finding a deeper version of yourself through the connection you share. It is not selfish, yet it is not blind selflessness either. It is the sacred middle ground where devotion meets dignity, where passion meets patience, and where two souls choose each other every single day.
Today I was asked what my take on love is, I paused. Not because I did not know, but because love cannot be reduced to a single sentence. It is vast, layered, and sacred. Here above is my attempt to put into words what my heart believes love truly is.
Love is not about losing yourself in another, it is about finding the best of yourself reflected in them, wanting to be a better version of yourself not just for them but for yourself.
